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Get Up, Get Dressed, Get Out - The Power of a Woman to Create a New Life After Widowhood

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Get up.
Get dressed.
Get out.
Yes! It's hard.
Your husband, or significant other, someone you cared deeply about, has passed.
You are alone.
You want to waddle in your sadness, in your coulda, woulda, shouldas, in what was and is no more.
People listened to your woe is me, they sympathized in the beginning, maybe the first month, maybe longer but...
now it is time to realize you are your own "I am" and focus on yourself.
No one else will.
I know how it is, how it feels.
Been there, done that.
I described it as hell on wheels in the beginning and seeming non-ending.
The wheels just continued to turn.
I felt lost and hurt and wondered will it ever end, when will it end and, most important, who was I now.
As time advanced, though, I realized I was changing, I was healing.
I was accepting both.
his passing and my new life as a single woman again.
Was there any other choice? No! None.
It was simply my reality.
But, I was blessed and I knew it.
When my husband passed, he left me with the words, "I want to be with you but I can't.
Move on Without Me.
" He encouraged me to live, to start a new life.
His life had ended, mine had not, and I had a lot more to do.
Sharing what I had learned was the first step...
and much thanks to his love.
His encouragement began my evolution and maybe my revolution.
It was definitely the original catalyst.
But, it was me that did it.
I lived and learned...
and particularly to focus on all the good, how much I had gained from being married to him.
I remembered to remember.
If I had a regret - and I had many -, I learned to treat it as a learning experience.
I would have that honeymoon next time! I would go on that trip, buy that property I loved.
I learned that people changed, friendship changed and to accept.
Life was ever-changing.
I was changing.
I would do and be me.
A new me did emerge and continues daily to do so.
I give thanks every day for him, for my wonderful remembrances, for who I was, for who I am now, and for who I am becoming.
If I can do it, you can too!
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